Sexual betrayal trauma is the experience of being deeply wounded by the breaking of trust, intimacy, and covenant through a partner’s secret or harmful sexual behavior.

It occurs when a spouse engages in actions—such as pornography use, emotional or physical affairs, compulsive sexual behaviors, or hidden sexual choices—that violate the emotional, spiritual, and relational safety of the marriage.

One misunderstanding many women have is the belief that they should be able to “get over" betrayal quickly—or that their pain is somehow an overreaction.  

In reality, sexual betrayal can be a traumatic injury, not a simple relational disappointment.

Healing is a gradual, legitimate, and deeply individual process that requires safety, support, and compassion—not pressure, self-blame, or unrealistic timelines. Be gentle with yourself; give yourself time to heal. 

Through Coaching, you can:

• process grief and loss
• rebuild your sense of self and safety
• learn how to regulate your emotions
• separate your partner's choices from your worth
• build healthy boundaries that reflect your values
• begin to rebuild trust

When one partner in a relationship begins to focus on their own, individual, healing and growth there is a positive impact on the relationship. However, one person cannot completely change the health or direction of a marriage, alone. Sometimes, unfortunately, the betraying partner is not open to change.

Part of healing from sexual betrayal is learning that you were never responsible for the choices of your partner. You are only responsible for your own choices, your own recovery. 

Ultimately, you can't control whether your spouse or partner decides to change, but you can decide to become the healthiest version of yourself. 

Over time, many women recovering from sexual betrayal begin to notice:

• More emotional steadiness and fewer overwhelming moments
• A growing sense of self-trust and inner clarity
• Freedom from constant self-blame
• Confidence in setting boundaries and making decisions
• A renewed sense of identity—grounded, strong, and whole

Healing doesn’t erase your story. It transforms your relationship to it.

Betrayal Coaching focuses on supporting personal growth, clarity, and forward-focused goals as a woman navigates healing and life after betrayal.

Therapy or Counseling typically focuses on assessing and treating the psychological effects of betrayal trauma and related mental health concerns. It is provided by licensed counselors.

One-to-one Coaching sessions are $80 per hour. Sessions can be scheduled weekly, bi-weekly or monthly. Book a session here: Coaching

Group Coaching is an affordable alternative to private, one-to-one sessions. For women healing from sexual betrayal, it has the added benefit of connecting you with a supportive community of women who understand what you're facing. Pricing for Group Coaching programs vary depending on program length. Find out more here:Group Programs

Unfortunately, Coaching services are not covered by insurance benefits at the present time. However, if cost is a concern, Group Coaching Programs can be a far more financially feasible option than Individual Coaching or counseling, with the added benefit of a community of women who understand your healing journey.

If cost feels like a barrier, consider THRIVE Weekly Support, a group program available to subscribers every week for an entire year, for one payment of $50 — that's about one dollar an hour! Find out more here.

Please feel free to reach out to discuss available options or resources and explore what support may be possible for you.

Coaching sessions are private and confidential. Coaches are obligated to keep a client's information private, applying this standard before, during, and after the Coaching engagement.

However, the law requires that confidentiality be broken in situations where there exists a risk of harm to self or others, or if a child or vulnerable person is at risk.

Individual Coaching sessions are reserved just for you. If you need to reschedule or cancel your Individual Coaching session, you must provide at least 24 hours notice to avoid full payment.

Missed Group Program sessions cannot be rescheduled, however any missed worksheets will be provided. 

Not at all. Women from all faith backgrounds — or no faith background — are warmly welcome.  While my Christian faith shapes the way I approach life and healing, my Coaching is always respectful of your personal values and spiritual journey.

Coaching can be a powerful support for women healing from sexual betrayal because it focuses on forward movement, clarity, and rebuilding strength after trauma.

As mentioned above, Coaching focuses on supporting personal growth, clarity, and forward-focused goals as a woman navigates healing and life after betrayal.

Sexual betrayal often leaves women feeling silenced, dismissed, or misunderstood. Coaching provides a confidential space where a woman can speak openly about her experience without judgment. Being heard and validated is an important step in rebuilding trust in herself and others.

Initially, healing is about stabilization and safety. Over time, Coaching helps women move toward growth by asking questions like:

• What kind of life do you want moving forward?
• What would healing look like for you?
• What steps will help you reclaim your future?

Coaching can also include practical tools such as grounding exercises, emotional regulation techniques, and self-care practices that help calm the nervous system and restore stability.

If you feel that Coaching might be helpful, consider booking a free, 20-minute consultation. This allows us to meet, talk briefly about what you’re going through, and see whether this kind of support feels right for you. There is absolutely no obligation and your information is strictly confidential.